I was in 8th standard when my mum went to my parent teacher meet. My class teacher, Harvinder sir, asked for my name (my mum went alone). When she told that she’s my mum, Harvinder said that oh! Hasmeet! She’s a very sensitive girl. It still resonates in my mind. It was hardly three months that I was attending his class, which constituted of 45-46 students, and he already knew that I was sensitive.
Now coming to the present moment. Frankly speaking, I have never faced any criticism. But something happened this week which prompted me to wanna delete my blog. But I didn’t. I thought it through. And hence, I didn’t. Someone, really close, someone in my family, said some of the harshest stuff about one of my blog post. And that is not all. The next day, another person from my family said even harsher things about that same blog post. I cried continuously for two days. SENSITIVE.
But, I confided in people I knew understood me better; My mum, my sister, my bhaiya (elder brother) and my best friend. And they calmed me down. (Yes! It takes a huge lot of people to calm me down!)
That day, I was introspecting. Am I not good at taking criticisms? The fact is that nobody ever criticised me before. And then this happened. I need to be strong. This is criticism.
But it wasn’t. It was not criticism. It was, what I would like to call, a Generation-gap.
Criticism should always be constructive. For e.g., your ideas were good, but you could’ve improved them with some real life examples. Or, I think you need to work on your vocabulary or your grammar. Or anything of that sorts which actually points out at the blogger’s weak points WITH THE AIM OF IMPROVISING IT.
Destructive criticism is when you howl harsh words with the aim of hurting the other person and not really with the intention of helping him/her improve. For e.g., you’re good for nothing! Nobody cares what you think or write!
One should always welcome constructive criticism because it is more worth than praise. It is coming from people who truly care for the stuff you put out on your blog and want to help you to improve it better. Destructive criticism is coming from people who are jealous of you or are just trying to degrade you ‘for the sake of fun’.
I know the people I can confide in. They tell me what I need to do to make my blog better. Always try to differentiate between the ones who really care about your work and the ones who are ‘nothing’!!